Lol, midlife crisis at 22? I refuse to admit to being middleaged until I'm 60. I guess you're not old until you really deny it. Have fun, but don't lose love--you have that right!
Another Adam
· 9 months ago
Well said. Similar experiences. There are a few guys out there who are able to relate, but finding them is almost like dating. Gotta talk to a bunch of losers before you find those who are worth getting to know.
Eric S
· 9 months ago
I totally agree, Adam. I'm sick of having to fight all of the male stereotypes out there - we don't all think with our penises (I've got nothing against sex, but it's not the _only_ thing in life!). It's great to actually get to know people and make genuine, lasting friendships.
Hany Rashwan
· 9 months ago
Very well said. I haven't been able to establish a deep relationship with a girl that I am not dating. And after we break up...well, then we are no longer friends. Anyone who says it's easy to still be strong friends with an ex (perhaps like you used to be before dating) obviously never went through the experience.
I have one tidbit though. You mention your belief that you can't have a deep relationship with any guy and you just befriend them for the escapades. I don't believe this is actually true. If you are truly like this and believe in what you wrote, realize that there are other guys who think alike. There are guys out there who care more about getting to know the girl than banging her. Meet some of those and you can easily develop a deep analytical (and platonic) relationship...and of course make a great friend along the way.
Jose M
· 9 months ago
"All of you this weekend who were chasing women, you lost a lot of respect from me."
"I have a mental list of all of you"
Oh nooooooooooooooooo
Ronald Lewis
· 9 months ago
Adam,
This is the beauty of blogging. Just from interacting with you on Twitter, I can tell you're a good person to know. I like that you're honest and frank about yourself, life, etc.
Dating can be quite complex (and very frustrating), but you are right that both men and women date for one reason: To mate!
Dom Sagolla
· 9 months ago
Adam, one of the things that makes you awesome is your honesty. I know Laura realizes how fricking rare that is.
Jessica (femaleprodigy)
· 9 months ago
Adam, I think I've learned more about you in this one single post then I have ever known about you (which isn't much considering I only know you from twitter) but I must say, you are one of the most honest people I know and I'm sure Laura knows what a great person she has. I was always one of those girls that hung out with the guys because all the girls I knew were just too prissy and that just wasn't me. I'd rather pick the brain of a few of my guy friends than listen to the bitching of some of my female friends! Anyway, keep up the great posts, I'm really enjoying reading them!
Jeff
· 9 months ago
Adam,
You are such a good man. You inspire and motivate multitudes of people, including myself. Very amiable post here. I like it, and I concur with you on every bit of this. I'm a teenager, and I hate the stereotype of 'make sure you watch your daughters boyfriend because he's just in it for the sex'. I completely agree with your thoughts and am not in it for the sex, but almost exactly the opposite—to get to know that person, and share life experiences because that will stick with somebody and be way more valued.
Keep up the great work man. -Jeff
Kimberly
· 8 months ago
Adam,
I appreciate that you sent me the link to this post because I found your unique opinion very intriguing. I was in a couple of long term relationships during high school and college and now I feel rather disillusioned about dating and relationships. I've "dated" a variety of men since I got out of my last relationship but now I feel more confused about what I want than I did before. I'm thinking maybe I should take the same kind of hiatus from it all that you did and see if I can't work on building better friendships instead of worrying and fussing over having romantic relationships.
I'm relieved to hear that there is at least one man out there that is more concerned with building strong spiritual friendships with women than being sex buddies or simply just trying to fuck them.
Thank you :)
Facebook User
· 8 months ago
hahahahaha. great article my man. thanks for linking it to me before. again, i hope everything works out well for you Adam because you definitely are a hard worker and a caring guy.
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I have one tidbit though. You mention your belief that you can't have a deep relationship with any guy and you just befriend them for the escapades. I don't believe this is actually true. If you are truly like this and believe in what you wrote, realize that there are other guys who think alike. There are guys out there who care more about getting to know the girl than banging her. Meet some of those and you can easily develop a deep analytical (and platonic) relationship...and of course make a great friend along the way.
"I have a mental list of all of you"
Oh nooooooooooooooooo
This is the beauty of blogging. Just from interacting with you on Twitter, I can tell you're a good person to know. I like that you're honest and frank about yourself, life, etc.
Dating can be quite complex (and very frustrating), but you are right that both men and women date for one reason: To mate!
I was always one of those girls that hung out with the guys because all the girls I knew were just too prissy and that just wasn't me. I'd rather pick the brain of a few of my guy friends than listen to the bitching of some of my female friends! Anyway, keep up the great posts, I'm really enjoying reading them!
You are such a good man. You inspire and motivate multitudes of people, including myself. Very amiable post here. I like it, and I concur with you on every bit of this. I'm a teenager, and I hate the stereotype of 'make sure you watch your daughters boyfriend because he's just in it for the sex'. I completely agree with your thoughts and am not in it for the sex, but almost exactly the opposite—to get to know that person, and share life experiences because that will stick with somebody and be way more valued.
Keep up the great work man.
-Jeff
I appreciate that you sent me the link to this post because I found your unique opinion very intriguing. I was in a couple of long term relationships during high school and college and now I feel rather disillusioned about dating and relationships. I've "dated" a variety of men since I got out of my last relationship but now I feel more confused about what I want than I did before. I'm thinking maybe I should take the same kind of hiatus from it all that you did and see if I can't work on building better friendships instead of worrying and fussing over having romantic relationships.
I'm relieved to hear that there is at least one man out there that is more concerned with building strong spiritual friendships with women than being sex buddies or simply just trying to fuck them.
Thank you :)
again, i hope everything works out well for you Adam because you definitely are a hard worker and a caring guy.
keep it friend. all comes in due time!